Criticism and personal growth

“When talking about criticism, we should start by admitting that it is certainly rare for us to walk away from being criticised with a feeling that this was great,” says counselling psychologist Edrich Smook.

Yet it’s important to consider the type of criticism being levelled against you. “For many people past criticism (especially as children) has come with shame and humiliation. This makes it difficult for us to differentiate as adults between positive, creative support and criticism,” explains clinical psychologist, Jamie Elkon. “The inability to absorb and make use of positive criticism means that we inhibit our ability to learn new information which can really leave us feeling stuck and limited in pivotal interpersonal interactions. When our partners, or employers offer positive supportive feedback it is important to explore the content in order to see whether it could be a catalyst in our personal growth.”

DESTINY MAN asks its Facebook fans:

Do you see criticism as constructive or damaging and why? How has your response to criticism affected the way you live your life?

Ronny Darkie Machie Not all criticism is constructive, but I always take it constructively and build on making myself better. But I’ve learned that you can’t please everyone, more especially in the corporate world.

Charles Molapisi Criticism may be constructive or even damaging but it matters how you handle it because  sometimes it can weigh you down. It can also be used as a learning curve. It’s not like everybody will applaud you as we have different views and analysis.

Leaveil David Lupton I believe it’s how it’s being relayed to the person. It’s not what you say; it’s how you say it. In the corporate world, people always tend to focus on the negative rather on the positive which would actually enhance your confidence to better your weakness areas.

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To read the full version of this story go to page 98 of the September-October 2013 issue of DESTINY MAN